Hey girl, sprinkle a little self-love on that!
There is a specific type of regret that is particularly hard to let go of, the kind where you blame yourself.
One powerful tip for being happier, calmer, and more fulfilled? Occasionally just cut yourself some slack. Most of us are incredibly harsh on ourselves, more than we would be with anyone else. We expect too much and don’t allow for simple mistakes or slips. In short, we demand perfection and rarely give ourselves a break.
When was the last time you said something you wished you hadn’t or didn’t finish as much work as you wanted to?
And how did you spend the rest of that day? Most likely, you spent it regretting your shortcomings and feeling stressed. Perhaps you let it eat at your self-esteem or thought you didn’t deserve nice things.
Now ask yourself: how would you have reacted had someone else told you those same things? You’d undoubtedly have given them a break and been kind to them. So how about you be the same with yourself?
This is an example of mindfulness – being mindful of your thoughts and how those things affect your mind and mood. Are your thoughts healthy? Or are they actually quite damaging?
One way to change your thoughts from a wellness perspective is to use affirmations. Combine this with post-it notes around your home that contain those notes to improve your mood and remind yourself to think more positively.
For this to work well, those notes should be things that you already believe are true to some extent. So if you feel that you are intelligent, then write a note reminding yourself of that.
“You are capable and intelligent, and things work out well for you”. write that down and stick it in your bathroom.
“I am always guided in the right direction; I trust my intuition to guide me into prosperity and wellness.”
One more important reminder that you should write in capital letters and place where you will see it the first moment you wake up.
Imagine a note right when you get up saying:
” MY ANGELS ARE ORCHESTRATING MY DAY TO BE BRILLIANT; I CAN TRUST THAT MY DAY IS LAID OUT BEFORE ME DIVINELY PLANNED.”
“LET GO AND LET GOD”
“I SURRENDER TO THE DIVINE TO MANIFEST MY REALITY TODAY”
” I CHOOSE TO WALK AND LOVE AND NOT FEAR”
Journaling can help too. Write down three things you did well today and any compliments that people gave you. You can then read these back from time to time! This has a huge impact, seeing as, for most of us, an insult has a much more significant impact on our self-image than a compliment. This practice forces you to skew that balance.
Loving Kindness Meditation and Gratitude
You can also practice being kinder to yourself with something called ‘loving kindness meditation’. This form of meditation involves spending time cultivating a feeling of kindness toward yourself. Bask in that feeling, and let it really sink in. Focus on this sensation and try to maintain it for 10 minutes at a time a few times a week. It’s truly transformative in the way you see the world.
Finally, consider cultivating a gratitude attitude. This means focusing on the things you have and the things you are happy with. This makes you more positive and brings you into the present moment, and helps you feel better about the things you have accomplished already. It’s a perfect way to combat those feelings of regret!
End your day with positive reflection and gratitude.
In that journal, you should also write down three things you are grateful for at the end of every day. This will force you to reflect on how much has gone right and what is good in your life.